Utilize the power of the universal Law of Attraction to create your desired outcome for each meeting. For example, during the hour before your conversation begin thinking about what you want to create. Use my successful case scenario formula if you wish.
Set up your relationship issues conversation space...
Deepen your bonding by sharing this responsibility as described in the guidelines on Page 4.
Get comfortable...
Begin by sitting comfortably facing each other, with about six inches between you.
No touching...
Refrain from touching each other during this relationship issues conversation.
The urge to console your partner may be very strong, but there are nuances in touching that may distract the speaker from truly expressing feelings.
Crying is good...Resistance is painful
Allow emotions and feelings to move through you without resistance.
Crying is healing. Keep tissues handy but don't offer one to your partner.
Why not? It implies, please, stop crying.
BTW, both of you can cry together if you are so moved during these conversations - do not stifle feelings - just remember to allow the speaker freedom to speak and be heard.
Meditation and Relaxation...
Begin each relationship issues conversation with a brief session of meditation to bring your consciousness awareness into the present moment, quiet your mind, and relax your body.
When you feel completely relaxed then gently open your eyes.
Maintain your awareness in the present moment, look into your partner's eyes and allow feelings of connection to grow within you.
Timing the conversation...
Allow each partner up to 2 minutes to speak without being interrupted.
Interruptions can block a speakers intuitive flow, and divert a listener's attention, so watching a clock is unwise.
For the first two or three conversations try to be flexible with timing.
A note of caution...
Do not begin your time together with conditions, such as, Could we keep this short because I have to ... A comment like that sets you both up for failure.
Set your intentions to make this 15-minute conversation more important than anything else in your life.
Deepen your connection with eye contact...
Maintain eye contact for the duration of the session. If your eyes wander while you are thinking about what to say, so be it, but always reconnect with eye contact as soon as you become aware it is gone.
Clarifying your partner's statement...
Allow the speaker to completely finish - leave a few moments of silence before you begin your feedback.
Begin your feedback with, This is what I heard you say, then say it in your own words, then ask, is that what you intended me to hear?
Repeat the clarification guidelines until the speaker agrees that the message has been heard accurately.
Now switch roles and repeat the exercise starting with the relaxation and centering techniques.
Emotional healing takes time...
The results of significant emotional healing take time to integrate into your life.
In a relationship with two willing and determined partners, the success curve is shortened and you will begin noticing changes in your relationship as you become comfortable and familiar with these conversations.
The tools offered here will over time prove to be more worthwhile than you can imagine - if you use them as recommended.
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